Have you ever glimpsed those, “what you posted 10 years ago” things on social media? I do and it makes me think. I read my posts and think, wow I’ve got some insight or, did I really say that err wow.
Even my last post was something I said long ago. But, what has me thinking is that I am a different person now than I was a few years ago. I read my blog post at the start of the COVID-19 pandemic and saw how ridiculous I was. How I could have believed all those things. I do not believe that I am any more enlighted now than I was. The only thing I can agree on is the fact that I am different.
I am absolutely sure that someone who knew me 10 years ago and has not spent a huge amount of time around me since would really not know me today. Everything you experience today, changes who you will be tomorrow. Those things that happen once in a while that are happy traumatic or horrible traumatic change your beliefs and values to change you at the essence of who you are.
I would have said 10-15 years ago that I might be naive, but now I admit that I am and own it. And, because I know I am I pause on interactions and re-evaluate or ask for an outside eye. This should make me keener but, given the choice I’d opt for naive even knowing this. I believe I’m in the middle of being keener, or that is what I tell myself.
Back to my point, change is the only constant in the universe and you change little by litte every second. Experiencing new things changes things that are thought to be true. Evolving into another person happens for you gradually, but for people you have not seen for a while it would be a shock.
Remember this though, the same is true for everyone else. It’s kind of refreshing in a way to know that everyone is constantly different, but it can be daunting as well, that you have to keep learning without a break. It doesn’t really happen that way. If you are around them all the time, you both change together. Shared experiences help someone understand you better. While it’s not exactly the same as you both have had a different whole life experience, sharing the same experience might give you both common ground. Friendship, that is how it happens, and shared experiences between individuals lead to bonding. And, that is how BFF’s are made.
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