Do you listen?

Most people really aren’t listening. They are waiting for a breath so that they can start talking. When they do listen, they are looking for cues that they can use to get you on their side. I wrote this a few days ago when I was in my feelings. I really noticed watching a few people talk to each other that they really were not paying attention to what one another was saying. They were waiting on a breath so they could launch into a tirade of their own thoughts and feelings.

I then wrote (longhand and boy is it hard to read 😉 that sometimes people really are interested in you. Sometimes, they aren’t!

But, I digressed further and i’m going to be honest here, this is what my flawed brain actually said, “Why do I feel unvalued? Why is what I want to say so unimportant? Is it because what they want to say is so much more important than what I want to say?” Then I started being my own therapist. No, what you want to say is not unimportant, it’s just that it exists in your head and not theirs. And, honestly, it’s the same for them. Well, that’s uplifting kinda.

But, I digressed again. I reasoned with myself that I hate being overlooked, not that I crave attention because I really don’t. It’s just being overlooked by everyone, being lost. Being left out of everything. I once went to a meeting where I sat at a table and was all alone. A beautiful friend named Debbie came and sat down with me so I was not alone. I was not upset I was alone, in fact, Debbie sitting with just me showed how important I was. She saw me out there with no one ( I really did not know anyone ) and decided she would stand with me, err sit with me, same difference!

Being dismissed hits my witch switch. Nothing makes me madder than someone with arrogance telling me I’m insignificant. That is not their job thank you very much. Now that I’ve blurted that out there, we can continue.

The point is you are important and you do deserve to be heard. The problem, is well if we all deserve to be heard, then who is really listening? I’m not kidding you it’s like the chicken and the egg thing. The point I’m trying to make is, we need to listen to each other. Sometimes, somewhere there is someone who is on that edge of feeling unloved or unvalued and if you don’t take a minute to listen, and no one else does well, who knows what would happen. (I love run-on sentences don’t you, had to make a point there)

Much <3,

Me!